Introducing… the ultimate dating app for expats

Once upon a time there was an expat. The expat had moved abroad and was overjoyed with the decision. A beautiful city, an upbeat international lifestyle, learning a new language, and discovering the quirks of working abroad made each day a new and exciting challenge.

Introducing... the ultimate dating app for expats

.There was just one aspect of life which wasn’t quite working out yet…


We here at The Local are no strangers to the ups and downs of expat life. Sure, there’s plenty to celebrate about living abroad. But when it comes to dating, starting from scratch in a new country with a different dating culture doesn’t exactly make it easier to find the perfect match.

Connecting with people locally can take time, and it’s sometimes hard to know where to start.

And since so many of our readers use The Local to connect ‘locally’ with online news and communities in new countries, it seemed natural for us look at how we could also make it easier for you — our readers — to meet people offline as well.

That’s why we’ve launched a new online dating service powered by Once, the dating app that mixes high-tech with a human touch.

Some of you may have already discovered what happens when you click on the ‘Dating’ category on The Local’s menu bar (to find ‘Dating’ while viewing The Local on a mobile device, just swipe left on the menu bar).

The link takes you to a quick-and-easy download of what we think is the ultimate dating app for expats.

Rather than leaving everything to some anonymous algorithm, Once actually employs real people – hundreds of them – who handpick matches based not only on your digital profile, but also on their own ‘gut feeling’ about who might be the best match for you.

With Once, you only have to consider one potential match per day, making it easier to focus on figuring out whether that new face is one you’d like to see more of. We have enough to sort through on our screens (and in our lives) as it is – who has time to swipe through yet another feed?

Click here to download the ultimate expat dating app

And you can rest assured that a language barrier won’t derail your love life – your matches on Once will all speak English (although that may not be the only language they speak).

With nearly 4 million users across the globe, Once offers plenty of options for you to find the perfect match…and experience love at first sight, no matter where you are.

So what are you waiting for? Check out The Local’s new dating service and download the app.

After all, you only live once.

This article was produced by The Local Client Studio and sponsored by Once

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How Berlin couples are navigating open relationships during the lockdown

While Berlin’s clubs, bars and restaurants are currently closed due to the national shutdown, the pandemic may have also forced other aspects of life to close, including open relationships.

How Berlin couples are navigating open relationships during the lockdown
A couple in Berlin. Photo: DPA

With strict rules in place on meeting up with people outside of your household and social distancing, getting up close and personal with others has never been so complex.

Germany’s contact restrictions still state that ‘members of one household may only meet with one other person from a different household’.

The government also stated that social circles should be ‘constant and as small as possible’. These measures will remain in place at least until March 7th when the shutdown may be loosened depending on numbers.

To comply with the isolation measures in place, many open relationships have been forced to alter their dynamics.  For some, this has meant closing the relationship completely, while for others it has resulted in seeing one other person outside of the relationship.

In a city that is known for being notoriously unattached, Covid-19 has led to polyamorous and non-monogamous couples renegotiating their rules.

READ ALSO: What's the advice for sex and dating in Germany during the coronavirus crisis?

Changing their rules based on Germany's rules

For Hugo, 38 and Lotte, 30, who are based in Berlin, their open relationship has mirrored the lockdown situation in Germany – becoming monogamous when the measures are in place, and open again once they have been relaxed. 

The initial conversation about monogamy, Lotte says, first came about at the end of March 2020, Germany introduced its first lockdown amid rising Covid-19 numbers.

“I did not want to say anything at first because I did not want to make a decision that would affect Hugo on my own but because of the pandemic I didn’t feel comfortable and I had to say something. I felt guilty at first, but Hugo respected it.”

Photo: DPA

Lotte says it was not just the risk of catching the virus herself, but due to the nature of her job that she felt compelled to stay safe.

“I am working as a psychologist, and last year I spent a lot of time in the clinic and I was encountering those from high-risk groups,” she said. “So, I was more concerned about giving the virus to other people.”

While Hugo says that his perception of the risk was low, he was happy to compromise and close the relationship while government measures were in place.

“I was not enthusiastic about being monogamous, but I recognize that I am less risk averse than Lotte, and so it is on my side to compromise to ensure she feels comfortable.”

When the lockdown measures were relaxed in June 2020, Hugo and Lotte said they opened their relationship once again. They said that the experience of monogamy did not change how they feel about their preferred model of relationships.

“We know that we both prefer to be open, but we were fine when it was just the two of us. We accepted the external circumstances, but it did not fundamentally change our ideas about relationships” explained Hugo. 

READ ALSO: 'Sex is easy to find in Berlin': Foreigners on love, hook-ups and friendship in Germany

When the case numbers started rising in Germany in the autumn, they once again decided to be monogamous, but it remains to be seen for how long. Lotte shares that if the shutdown were to last for many months, they would reopen the discussion and find another solution. 

However, they both agree that the lockdown measures brought them closer due to the amount of time they were spending together.

“When the pandemic started in March 2020, we had only been dating for a couple of months,” said Hugo. “My guess is that the lockdown got us to spend more time together. We came out of it knowing we want to be in a relationship.”

New lockdown, new rules

For others, their polyamorous relationship has not become monogamous, but has instead taken on new rules. Frederike, 30, who lives in Berlin, has been with her partner, Eike, for four years and three of these have been open.

However, since the global pandemic started, Frederike and her partner decided they would just see one other person outside of their relationship. 

“We wanted to respect the restrictions that were in place, and we didn’t want to contribute to the situation becoming worse. We were already both in other relationships at that moment, so we continued to just see this one other person, and it has been like that since the lockdown began.”

While Frederike says that the experience has not changed her opinion on relationships in a significant way, she has discovered that she has enjoyed the consistency of seeing one other person for a longer period outside of her relationship.

“I felt a bit more relaxed. Sometimes it felt like there was a lot going on and it was causing some trouble between my partner and me. I realized that I like having constant things in my life,” she said.

Frederike says one of the most difficult things she faced was when she had to quarantine after coming into contact with someone who had the virus.

She shares that while she was in isolation, her partner continued seeing the person he was involved with outside of their relationship. 

“Eike and I were planning to go abroad together as he had a work trip planned. But then I had to isolate and I wasn’t able to see him before he left Berlin. During this time, he was meeting with the person he is still seeing now, and it felt awful that they were able to meet each other and I couldn’t see him.

“I did not want to restrict him, but knowing that they could meet and I couldn’t see him before his departure was pretty hard for me.”

“I was always concerned that if one of us had to quarantine while the other one did not, it would create jealousy. However, we have discussed that if this happened, we could be monogamous for this period.”

Photo: DPA

'It's irresponsible not to communicate'

For those at the beginning of their relationships, the conversation of exclusivity is coming up more quickly than usual. Claire, 28, based in Berlin, is currently using different dating apps to meet new people but says she is more wary about multi-dating.

READ ALSO: Dating apps: The unlikely tool that helped me settle in Germany

“Usually, I wouldn’t ask early on if the person I am dating is seeing other people, but as the case numbers are still high, I feel it is irresponsible not to communicate about this sort of thing.”

Although Germany’s lockdown measures are expected to be relaxed soon, it remains to be seen when life will open fully again. In the meantime, Berlin’s polyamorous and non-monogamous couples continue to navigate the changing rules and regulations around the pandemic. 

For Hugo, the end of lockdown is not just about meeting new people but returning to his way of life: “When the first lockdown ended, I was excited that our relationship was open again, not just in a sexual sense, but it gave me the feeling that things are returning to how they were before the virus.

“It gave me that reconnection to a normal life again.”