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10 reasons why you should date (or even fall in love with) a German

The Local spoke with an American-German matchmaker based in Wiesbaden to get some (much needed) tips on dating a German. After consulting with her German clients, she came up with some sound advice on finding Teutonic bliss.

10 reasons why you should date (or even fall in love with) a German
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“Dating someone from another country can be quite a challenge when you live abroad, especially if you aren't familiar with the culture, the habits and the language,” Jessica Dreyer, who runs the matchmaking service US Love Wiesbaden, tells The Local.

“In my position as an American-German matchmaker in Germany, I know about Americans' questions and insecurities over dating a local, but I also register the huge interest in finding a local sweetheart.”

SEE ALSO: 10 beautiful ways to express your love in German

Dreyer put her head together with members of her dating service to come up with the most important reasons to date a German, and some tips on how to deal with the cultural differences. This is what the German love-seekers had to say:

1. We don't all look like Diane Kruger

Diane Kruger Photo: DPA

Germans are not all tall, blonde and blue-eyed like Claudia Schiffer and Diane Kruger, or Thomas Kretschmann and Ralf Möller. But don't we have a great variety of different types of women and men in Germany?

2. We always come on time

When you have a date with us, you can expect us to be on time. Just the way most Germans are.

3. We like expanding our horizons

Germans are open-minded about meeting new people from different nationalities. It gives us that international flavour when we have to speak English with a foreigner. We like that. Learning English in school for years was a good and important thing in the end.

4. Don't mistake shyness for disinterest

When a German single is on a date with someone from abroad, we seem a little reserved or shy in the beginning because we take time to get to know someone. We are also in general not too over-excited in the way we greet you and speak with you.

Don't take this for a lack of interest, it's just the way we are – a little reserved. But once we get to know you and we like you or, even better, we fall in love with you, we open up a lot. We open up our hearts by telling you about our families, our friends, and our inner thoughts.

A woman holds a heart-shaped balloon. Photo DPA/ TMN

5. If you meet the friends, you're on the right track

You are heading the right way if your date asks you to join them to spend time with friends at someone's house. Germans like to keep a close, intimate circle of friends. Only if she or he feels you are the right one will they invite you to accompany them to friends.

6. We don't all love sausage

In Germany, we don't drink beer and wine, or eat sausage, dumplings and Schnitzel all the time. Many prefer the lighter cuisine or live veggie. We also don't all wear Dirndl and Lederhosen – outside of Bavaria, at least. You've probably noticed this by now. But of course if you want to enjoy a Maß of German beer with some traditional food, or try a regional Riesling from our beautiful vineyards, let's go for it!

7. We'll help you feel at one with your body

We may be able to teach you that there's nothing wrong with getting naked at a public sauna, undressing for a relaxing day at a spa, or being topless at the beach. We love to be natural – try to loosen up!

8. German women like an old fashioned gent

Most German women like a man to be a gentleman and love to be treated like a woman. Forget about the rules such as “after the third date, I should be able to expect such and such from them”. That doesn't work for most Germans. It's best not to expect anything at all and relax. Just listen to our signals, body language and eyes, and then you'll understand.

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9. We're in it for the long-term

Most Germans will date you for a much longer period of time than might happen elsewhere. We'll be in a relationship with you for many years before we decide on the next step, the big M for marriage. We also typically do not become a mum or dad before we hit 30 to 35 as a German woman, or 35 to 40 as a German guy.

10. When you break through the ice, the water underneath is warm

Once we fall in love with you and we have butterflies in our stomach (Schmetterlinge im Bauch), we are warm-hearted, reliable and loving partners. We are no exception when it comes to the most important values in life: finding love, having a family and keeping good friends.

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REVEALED: The most commonly asked questions about Germans and Germany

Ever wondered what the world is asking about Germany and the Germans? We looked at Google’s most searched results to find out – and help clear some of these queries up.

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According to popular searches, Germany is the go-to place for good coffee and bread (although only if you like the hard kind) and the place to avoid if what you’re looking for is good food, good internet connection and low taxes. Of course, this is subjective; some people will travel long stretches to get a fresh, hot pretzel or a juicy Bratwurst, while others will take a hard pass.

When it comes to the question on the bad Internet – there is some truth to this. Germany is known for being behind other rich nations when it comes to connectivity. And from personal experience, the internet connection can seem a little medieval. The incoming German coalition government has, however, vowed to improve internet connectivity as part of their plans to modernise the country.

There are also frequent questions on learning the German language, and people pointing out that it is hard and complicated. This is probably due to the long compound words and its extensive grammar rules, however, as both English and German are Germanic languages with similar words in common, it’s not impossible to learn as an English-speaker.

Here’s a look at some of those questions…

Why is German called Deutsch? Whereas ‘German’ comes from the Latin, ‘Deutsch’ instead derives itself from the Indo-European root “þeudō”, meaning “people”. This slowly became “Deutsch” as we know it today. It can be a bit confusing to English-speakers, who are right to think it sounds a little more like “Dutch”, however the two languages do have the same roots which may explain it.

And why is Germany so boring? Again, probably a generalisation, especially given that Germany has a landmass of over 350,000 km² with areas ranging from high rise, industrial cities to traditional old town villages and even mountain ranges, so you’re sure to find a place that doesn’t bore you to tears.

Perhaps it is a question that comes from the stereotype that Germans are obsessed with being strict about rules, organised and analytical. Or that they have no sense of humour – all of these things being not the most exciting traits. 

Either way, from my experience I can confirm that, even though there is truth to German society enjoying order and rules, the vast majority of people are not boring, and I’m sure if you come to Germany you’ll meet many interesting, funny and exciting people. 

READ ALSO: 12 mistakes foreigners make when moving to Germany

When it comes to the German weather, most people assume a cold and cloudy climate, however this isn’t entirely true. While the autumn and winter, especially in the north, come with grey skies and sub-zero temperatures, Germany can have some beautiful summers, with temperatures frequently rising above 30C in some places.

Unsurprisingly, the power and wealth of the German nation is mentioned – Germany is the largest economy in Europe after all, with a GDP of 3.8 trillion dollars. This could be due to strong industry sectors in the country, including vehicle constructions (I was a little surprised to find no questions posed on German cars), chemical and electrical industry and engineering. There are also many strong economic cities in Germany, most notably Munich, Frankfurt am Main and Hamburg.

READ ALSO: Eight unique words and phrases that tell us something about Germany

Smart and tall?

Why are Germans so tall? They are indeed taller than many other nations, with the average German measuring a good 172.87cm (or 5 feet 8.06 inches), however this may be a question better posed to the Dutch, who make up the tallest people in the world.

Why are Germans so smart? While this is again a generalisation – as individuals have different levels of intelligence in all countries – this question may stem from Germany’s free higher education system or their seemingly efficient work ethic. Plus there does seem to be some scientific research behind this question, with a study done in 2006 finding that Germans had the highest IQ in Europe.

So, while many of the questions posed about Germany and Germans on Google stem from stereotypes, we can confirm that some aren’t entirely made up. If you’re looking to debunk some frequently asked questions about France and the French, check out this article by our sister site HERE.

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