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More than half of parents hit their kids - sons most

The Local · 12 Mar 2012, 16:26

Published: 12 Mar 2012 16:26 GMT+01:00

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Corporal punishment of children was outlawed in 2000, but 40 percent of parents asked in a Forsa survey on Monday said they “smacked their children on the bottom,” down from 46 percent in 2006.

A further 10 percent said they “clipped their children round the ear” (the figure was 11 percent in 2006), while four percent said they gave their children “a hiding” (down from six percent in 2006).

The main reasons parents gave for hitting their children was for being insolent, not listening or being aggressive.

The study, commissioned for parents’ magazine Eltern, showed that boys were twice as likely to be given a hiding as girls, and were also more likely to be smacked.

The magazine’s editor Oliver Steinbach said the study showed that parents hardly ever hit their children out of conviction, but usually out of desperation and helplessness.

He pointed out that the percentage of parents who felt bad after hitting their children had risen from 71 percent to 75 percent.

Another 17 percent of parents said they thought corporal punishment, “actually did not work”, while around a third said it had worked for at least a while. Only a quarter of those asked said they were pleased to have hit their children while nearly three quarters said they regretted it afterwards.

Children’s charity Deutsche Kinderhilfe said the figures were dramatic. Violence against children was a phenomenon which cuts across society, said Georg Ehrmann. It should provoke an outcry in society, he said.

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Non-violent methods of disciplining children included shouting, which more than 90 percent of the parents said they did. A further 85 percent said they deprived their children of treats as punishment, while a quarter said they stopped talking to their children to punish them.

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Your comments about this article

19:20 March 12, 2012 by chicagolive
People can say as they want since the dawn of this lets be cute with children, the children have gotten steadily more bold and insolent how they act with there parents, what you say mom screw you because the government says you can't do nothing. When you enjoy it there is something wrong and parenting got severely crippled by zealots saying every parent enjoyed beating there child.

Most of the people championing this are those few who had those horrible parents who enjoyed giving out pain but in the crusade to end abuse the tools of parenting for the goods ones was stripped away and what did that produce nothing but a bunch of children and becoming adults with out a care of respect for others which is actually in some places raising abuse higher.
20:19 March 12, 2012 by ovalle3.14
Don't we all sometimes earn a massage in the buttocks?
20:34 March 12, 2012 by The-ex-pat
20:19 March 12, 2012 by ovalle3.14

Don't we all sometimes earn a massage in the buttocks?

I did and from time to time my children do too!
20:47 March 12, 2012 by raandy
Interesting, I would never hit my kids but I might shake the sh^t out of em, no not really but that was a Richard Prior line I think. I would never hit the bit^h but I'd shake the sh^t out her.
20:58 March 12, 2012 by Simon_Kellett
Just my 10c worth: we have never hit our kids (now 13 and 15) and they are lovely kids ! Respect is earned, it is not a right !
08:32 March 13, 2012 by MaKo
My sons sometimes resort to hitting each other in moments of frustration. I try to impart upon them that we use words to resolve our conflicts, and when that doesn't work, then we we need more time, more personal space and intervention. What would it show them if, when all the time outs and well-meant lectures failed, I just hit them? Would they respect me? I think not. They might fear me, but fear and respect should not be conflated. How can you ask your kids for respect if you don't show them any?

I don't hit my sons, and my sons are delightful, respectful, compassionate and occasionally cheeky young people who try hard and are good to their peers.
09:30 March 13, 2012 by LancashireLad
> Respect is earned, it is not a right !


(Sorry for shouting)

Be an example !!! I just wish more of society in general could be. Kids learn from watching. They can only watch their parents some of the time, the rest of it they are watcing their peers and society in general. When I was a kid I got a good few "bottom massages". I'm tempted to say "it didn't harm me", but I can say I don't hit my kids. Reading this article and finding out that Germans *do* hit their Kids now proves to me that hitting Kids has no effect on bringing them up appropriately.
12:27 March 13, 2012 by Omufu
I got some good spankings and an occasional ear-clip, but I always deserved it and think my parents did the right thing. I don't have kids yet but I know many people with very healthy, loving families who have consciously chosen to spank their kids if strictly necessary. They are wonderful people, not closet sadists, and they spank their kids because they love them too much to let them run riot.

Children have two crucial questions we must answer:

1) Am I loved? To which the answer should be a resounding 'YES!'

2) Am I the centre of the universe? To which the answer should be a resounding 'NO!'
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