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How to lose a guy (or girl) for just €29.95

AFP · 13 Feb 2010, 09:20

Published: 13 Feb 2010 09:20 GMT+01:00

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"I knock on the door. I introduce myself and I say that my client no longer wishes to continue the affair," Dressler explained in an interview in his soulless and functional office in Berlin.

"It's very simple. It takes two minutes and it happens on the doorstep."

Even as Valentine's Day approaches, Dressler, a suave man in his 50s, is not the sort to get emotional. No tears. No hysterics. Just business.

"I'm just the messenger. It's not me breaking up the relationship. The person breaking it off is the person that hired me to do it."

The entrepreneur, originally in the insurance trade, has offered his unromantic services over the Internet for more than three years, taking his inspiration from a similar scheme in the United States.

"Dating agencies have been around for decades. I'm doing the same for break-ups," he said with a smile.

But giving your partner the boot is a serious business. Dressler works only with clients who pay him in advance and sign a four-page contract detailing "three or four reasons" to finish the relationship.

"I can also show this to the person concerned to show them this is not a gag," he said.

Dressler offers four levels of break-up service.

With "let's be friends," – costing €29.95 – the bad news is communicated dryly over the phone.

"Leave me alone," for the same price, leaves the ditched lover in no doubt that Dressler's client does not want to hear from him or her again.

For an extra €10, the unhappy Romeo – or Juliet – can opt for the "Break-up by letter" which, as the name implies, involves Dressler drafting a "Dear John" – or "Dear Jane" – on the client's behalf.

"We live in a throw-away society"

Finally comes the deluxe service, the "personal break-up" (€64.95), which has Dressler himself turning up unannounced on the doorstep.

Clients can even choose how they want the shattering news delivered: firmly or tenderly.

In Germany, where 57 percent of marriages end in divorce, the business of separation has flourished to the point where the country's first divorce fair is set to take place this year in the western city of Düsseldorf.

The fair is expected to draw specialist divorce lawyers, financial consultants, but also representatives of dating websites and even nutritionists.

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As for Dressler, he believes there are worse jobs. "The woman who works next door to me is a bailiff. When she has to kick people out of their houses or take their furniture, that's much harder than what I do."

"Personally, I could never imagine hiring someone to announce on my behalf that I wanted to break up with them. But I'm from a different generation. I think the young people of today feel less responsible."

A typical client ranges in age from 18 to 35 and is predominantly female, he said.

"We live in a throw-away society. You drink a can of coke and you throw it away. You don't fancy your partner any more, you go out and find another one," he added.

But Dressler is nothing if not an imaginative entrepreneur and he is already branching out. He has pioneered another website – www.verzeih-mir24.de – or "forgive me."

If you have committed some awful act or said something you regret, guess who you can hire to go and say sorry in your place?

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10:08 February 13, 2010 by Johnne
This is really sick, and dressler is a disgrace to the enterprenuer community. this guy is not better than his clients. how on earth should he be allowed to register such a disgraceful business in this country? I guess the police should knock on his door to break a jail term news to him.
12:27 February 13, 2010 by moorekwesi

i can't but appreciate the harm Dressler has caused you already.you seem wroth

because he delivered one to your doorstep in an unannounced manner.

Dressler was right,"The youth of today feel less responsible."i see it daily.
12:37 February 13, 2010 by auniquecorn
Dear Johnne

I am sorry to inform you that auniquecorn does´nt give a care about your opinion,


B. Dressler

The man is making money doing other peoples dirty work. Whats your address? I´ll send you a letter thru him.
13:41 February 13, 2010 by pepsionice
What you've got is a 30-to-40 year old generation....who can't face up to another party with bad news. They need the highly emotional nature of the moment and would prefer to just avoid it. Naturally, they will run out and buy a new cellphone just to ensure the old relationship partner doesn't try to call.

The other part to this story is that you find a fair number of relationships that have gone on for ten years without any marriage result (one party won't commit). So the other party finally wakes up and won't carry the relationship any further.
15:40 February 13, 2010 by Dogs_Gonads
Come on you must admit ,it is a clever idea on making money.

'A typical client ranges in age from 18 to 35 and is predominantly female, he said.'

And they call us heartless bastards.
03:27 February 14, 2010 by DavidtheNorseman
Ach, I'm torn. Sounds quite heartless at first, but perhaps the police would prefer this sort of service to be around...instead of Rudolf beating up Jane for leaving him, Rudolf gets a visit from Bernt - some serious old dude who looks and sounds like trouble........

Maybe Angela can hire him for Guido :-)
04:15 February 14, 2010 by cklb
lol @ the Norseman
19:30 February 15, 2010 by derExDeutsche
for better or worse, this is what society has been so desperately 'progressing' toward for 30+ years.

Women's Liberation plays no small role in this story. Gone is the Hausfrau, say hello to the Hausschwanz. Men are taking up roles traditionally held by women and vice versa. Nowadays, any better guy mind his p's and q' with their lady friend. They are testy! or just pick women up at the clubs for a night, they are still as easy as ever, after all.
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